First of all, it should be clarified that the average woman reaches orgasm 10 to 15 minutes later than average man. This determines that men have to ejaculate after that time. Otherwise, they are not satisfying their women. It becomes traumatic for a man who cannot control ejaculation during sex. This traumatic experience keeps him from seeking help or, even worse, makes him think there is no treatment or solution to the problem. For this reason, premature ejaculation has become a cause of silent suffering that often ends up destroying the self-esteem of sufferers.
Many scientists now believe that the premature ejaculation comes from the early days of masturbation, in which teens try to ejaculate as quickly as possible to avoid detection. This actually might have “trained” the brain to trigger the release of hormones rapidly, resulting in rapid ejaculation. Does that seem logical?
Some scientists believe that rapid ejaculation is a part of nature. Simply put, in prehistoric times, men needed to ejaculate quickly to procreate. Well, seems logical to me.
Anyway, we are not interested in which scientists are right but need to find solutions on how to reprogram our brains to last longer, right?
For starters, you should know that there is no silver bullet, such as a cream or small exercises, that will allow you to cure early or premature ejaculation. If there are such miracle treatments, everyone would know about it, and premature ejaculation would longer be a problem of sexology. Many men who have opted for pills, creams and any other method that promises to lengthen the time before ejaculation have sadly concluded their effectiveness is far from what had been promised and in no way is a real resource to a recovery. I would avoid the unnecessary expense!
There are many websites offering magic solutions that promise to end your premature ejaculation in a couple of days, which is totally false. To reverse an issue that has been generated over a long period or even over few years takes time.
The method of non-medical treatment for premature ejaculation that I have used and recommend is based on cognitive behavioral therapies. These therapies are the only effective therapies to treat premature ejaculation, and all treatments proposed by serious sexologists are based on such therapies. Furthermore, this method covers breathing exercises and relaxation, aimed at dealing with stress, fear of failure and the strong emotional context during sex. You also will learn to take control over the muscles in charge of ejaculation process.
You will learn about anatomy, sympatetic and the parasympatetic nervous system. These two
nervous systems are directly related to your performance in bed. The good news is that by knowing how our body works and reacts, we can change the behavior of our body.
The first thing to understand is that premature ejaculation is not a disease but a dysfunction
characterized by the lack of control over the ejaculatory reflex, so there is no drug solution or surgery to treat premature ejaculation.
Treatment of the “Ejaculation Trainer,” on the other hand is not only the most serious,
comprehensive and easy to follow but attacks premature ejaculation — in essence, reprogramming your reactions before and during intercourse, ensuring a truly comprehensive recovery.
It is a problem for men around the world. If you’re one of the many suffering from premature
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By using certain sex positions, you easily can last longer. You should use positions that help you to relax and at the same time stimulate the clitoris. By relaxing, you can delay your ejaculation, and by stimulating the clitoris, your partner also will achieve her orgasm sooner. It’s like getting a double effect. By using the so-called missionary or ”doggy-style” position, you cannot really control the ejaculation process, and it also takes more time for your partner to achieve orgasm. After all, having premature ejaculation is a quite relative thing and cannot really measured by minutes or hours. What is important is that you are able to satisfy your woman, right ?
This is the classical position in which the woman is dominating, and men can relax, helping them to delay ejaculation. On the other hand, this position accelerates the female’s orgasm. Many men find this position very exciting due to the idea of being dominated by woman.
The next position we have also puts the woman on top, but this time, both partners are facing each other. This position is very helpful to women having difficulties in reaching orgasm, as this position stimulates the clitoris more easily.
In the third position, the woman is on top while the man has his knees bent. This position has to be performed on a hard surface, not on a bed. The man can enjoy kissing the woman’s breasts while having sex in this position.
The fourth position is similar to the first one, only this time the woman has reversed her direction.
As you have noticed, the woman is dominant in all these positions. Positions that allow you full control make it more difficult for you to control the level of stimulation. The additional value is that in these positions, the woman will reach her orgasm faster. You should just experiment with your partner to determine which position works best for both of you. Of course, using these positions works best if you also learn to control your arousal in order to last even longer.
Have fun with different positions and surprise your partner. Whether or not you suffer from premature ejaculation, it’s always good to experiment a little, because sex does not have to be boring. Other benefits of trying different positions is that while changing positions, you can pause before resuming intercourse and therefore control your level of arousal. Remember: You should avoid of reaching the point of no return when you cannot control the ejaculation process.
Finally, we can conclude that the more work you do, the more excited you’ll get and the faster you will ejaculate! You should keep this in mind when choosing positions.
Now that we have learned the difference between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems, it has become clear: We need to stay parasympathetic as long as we can in order to delay ejaculation process.
Meditation can help us to gain more control over our mind, thus helping to keep the parasympathetic nervous system active. More importantly, meditation will train us to keep unwanted thoughts away. Self-confidence is an important factor in fixing premature ejaculation. However, it would be very hard to believe in yourself if you have failed many times over the years. I know how you feel. Unfortunately, our thoughts play an important role not only in our performance in bed but in every other aspect of our life.
It’s our internal dialog that matters!
Imagine Michael Jordan’s thoughts before he’s preparing to throw the ball into the basket. Do you think Michael Jordan has doubts about his performance? Of course not. He is confident about the result of a throw. If you want to become as good of a basketball player as Michael Jordan, it’s not enough to develop the same skills. You have to also think like Michael Jordan thinks.
Our thoughts matter – because our thoughts literally become matter!
Meditation is a technique to control our thoughts. Most people are like zombies. They are controlled by thoughts generated automatically, based on enviromental signals received by our senses and influenced and interpreted by our past experiences by our memory. No one seems to be in charge of our thoughts — or at least not the one who actually is having thoughts. They just seem to come and go randomly. Free will is just an illusion until you decide actually to use it.
The last thing we want is to have uncontrolled and undesired thoughts that we will fail again.
To practice meditation, you can take yoga classes or just practice it at home or any other place available. First, you need to find a place or a room that is suitable for meditation, preferably some place where no other people are walking around. Remove any possible distractions. Switch off the mobile phone. I know that when trying to meditate for the first time, it will be hard to avoid having distractive thoughts even for a few minutes. It would not make sense at first to set an impossible goal like meditating for one hour. Instead, start with just five minutes. I recommend you set a timer and, in case you had a thought during meditation, reset the timer and start again until you can clear your mind for five minutes.
Sit down on the floor with your legs crossed. If possible, use a soft surface, such as a yoga mat or a blanket.
Close your eyes and relax your body.
Focus on your breathing. Concentrate on inhaling and exhaling.
You should not have any thoughts until the timer goes off!
I recommend you use a Tibetan mantra, “om mani padme hum,” as a background sound. There is 34-minute version available on YouTube.
If you feel comfortable meditating for five minutes, increase the time to ten minutes. Increase the time gradually by adding five minutes every time you feel comfortable. Unless you want to be a Buddhist monk, you don’t need to meditate for many hours. Twenty minutes to one hour of meditation every day would be great. Meditation helps you to control your arousal and thus stay parasympathetic longer. More importantly, it will help you remove any thoughts about having premature ejaculation and regain your self confidence.
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